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Email Chain Letters - "Words That Bless or Curse" |
They used to come to us in the mail without a return address. Although they contain seemingly blessings or luck that you will receive for performing a certain "call-to-action," many chain letters are not meant for the good of people. I don't believe in them or participate in them. Reason being is because they contain curses. A curse is the opposite of a blessing. I can write a whole different article on curses and how they are used. Most people are not aware of them because of how they are disguised and made to look glamorous.
I am not saying the people who send these mean you harm, because most times we get these letters from people who genuinely love us and they would not purposely or knowingly do anything to harm us. What I mean is the email has a statement in it which says something to the effect of ". . . if you don't you will have bad luck." Statements like that pronounce curses in the lives of the readers. How? They produce fear in people so that they do something unnecessary. The Bible tells us anything not based on faith is sin.
God doesn't work that way. He only requires us to read His word and live by it and to discard anything that goes contrary. Some people only read chain letters for fun. I wanted to share this for the benefit of people who may not be aware of what an email chain letter is.
There really is power of life and death in the tongue. We can speak life or death into our lives. I learned that almost everything that happens to us is a result of what we have said; what we have allowed to be said to us; and/or what we did not speak against. Words, your own words, really are powerful. It has been said that action speaks louder than words. Not in every case. Words are very powerful. If you tell a little girl all her life that she is cute, she will believe it and act accordingly. Why? Because she's heard it all her life. Faith comes by hearing. Written or spoken. We even hear when we read; if not our own voice some other voice, internally. Proverbs 4:23 warns us to be careful how we think because our lives are shaped by our thoughts. We also hear our thoughts.
Let's go back to chain letters. A good rule of thumb for recognizing chain letters is to ask yourself: Are the words in the email full of life and encouragement? Do they produce faith or fear? Fear of "if I don't do something I will have bad luck." Words full of life are edifying (helpful) and strengthen your faith. Other clues: Do they tell you to perform a certain action in a certain amount of time or forward the message to a certain number of people? If the clues add up to it being a chain letter, do not feel bad or guilty if you do not forward it. You could reply back to the sender and let them know about chain letters. If the email is encouraging, uplifting, and does not pronounce anything negative on the reader, you can forward it. I don't mean any harm, so I will tell you in advance, I always reply back to any negative statement made to me because faith comes by hearing. Some well meaning people can say stuff to you that "plants" seed in your thinking. Example, people used to always say to me "You are so little!" as to indicate I was puny and I've even been called that. And people would say things like, "You better gain some weight or the wind will blow you away." I thought it was a bad thing to be little, slim. I tried to gain weight but it never worked because it was engraved in my head that I was "so little." My grandmother used to tell me to leave my weight alone. I didn't realize at the time that different size frames will hold a different amount of weight. There is a big difference in being little and being "so" little. When people would fix my plate, being a kid, they'd fix me small portions and I'm thinking - "I want more than that." Especially cornbread dressing! (smile) They looked at me and decided that I only needed a certain amount of food on my plate. What they didn't know is that yes, I was finicky but I would eat a lot of foods I liked. I've seen big people who are finicky. Then I had those in my family who'd tell me I was going to get a middle-aged spread. I have always said that I will never go through the middle aged spread and that is exactly what happened.
Now they didn't mean any harm. But as you can see, words have a way of affecting how people think. By using my own words I planted the seed I wanted. I later began responding to people who made comments, "I may be little but I am strong." or "We all can't be the same size." My attitude changed about my size. Everyone has their own, what we call "healthy weight" based on the size of their frame. The important thing is being healthy and not being a certain "size" that people or society thinks you ought to be. I said all of that to say, we have to make it a point to produce what we want in our lives by speaking and saying those thing that you want and to speak against any negativity that someone may impose on you. It's called "casting down imaginations." My confession is that my body maintains the proper amount of weight. When I bless my food, I say to my body to be nourished . . . I even say to the food that "Food, you will nourish my body in the name of Jesus." Just think about if I used that same principle in every area of my life. I always said I have good children, we will not have teenage drama. My children are a blessing of the Lord. They are 18 and 20 and I have what I have been saying about my children.
If you want to build someone up, bless them or encourage them, speak only the positive and leave the negative out. The negative will always exist. Only say out loud the good things about your children, your spouse or friends. They don't need to hear the negative. We cannot deny facts. However we don't have to give it attention. Whatever you give your attention to, you give your power to. It affects your belief system and how you think. It takes effort to be positive in a negative world, but it is worth it. The adversary is seeking whom he may devour and he does it through our minds . . . the mental pictures we have in our heads about ourselves is one of the leading causes of depression.
I saw a television news segment where a woman had lipo suction to please her husband and died. Please don't take this out of the context of which it was meant:
Never, and I mean never let anyone define you by their opinion of what they think you should look like. I don't know how much more adamant I can be about that one. I have seen women allow themselves to be pressured, perhaps even depressed by a man who wants them to look a certain way. Look good for you. Is there a such thing of being over or under weight? Sure there is. Doctors have charts that tell you what range you should be in. Follow that and not someone else's opinion. Don't be depressed if you have not yet experienced the success you aspire to. But be the best you, that you can be for you. I dated a guy once who said "If I could get about 15-20 more pounds on you that would be it right there." My response was to go find you someone else with 15 to 20 more pounds on them. Be healthy and everything else will fall in line. Think about it: opinions come from television, which is one of the reasons I am excited to be in the film and television industry. We need more true images and media influencing the minds of our Christian people. It really is okay to "improve" your physical image. It actually is inevitable when we get into the word that our physical appearance changes over a period of time for the better. Use God's wisdom. It becomes unhealthy when people allow themselves to be pressured about their self-image to the point of doing something "unnecessary" or harmful to their body.Lastly, focus on good and positive things by exposing yourself to what is good and positive more than what is negative. Just think about it: What if we spent as much time filling our minds with that which is positive and beneficial to us as we did watching, reading, or hearing things that don't add to our well-being? We would be the epitome of power! So it's not a matter of what's good to do or not to do, as Paul said, but what is beneficial.
I know this article was to talk about email chain letters, but it also has to do with words. I challenge us all to be responsible with our words. I pray that the readers of this article are enlightened.
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